3Trick to building healthy habits

    

How to build healthy habits - Here's the deal about habits our brains are hard wired in such a fantastic way that the only thing're constantly optimized for it how can I spend the least amount of energy to get any work done? That's what the brain loves to do That's what the brain Strives for. So if you can get yourself to do something with the least amount of energy the brain loves you Now, what's the brain's way to get to this point? form a habit go back to the first day you drove the car , the cycle, the bike or anything like that. And remember how you were feeling you were driving that thing and everything around you was happening vividly. you were observing the cow come in front you are observing other vehicles come to you . you were observing other people. you were scared you were looking at things the wind was being felt and everything like that and now car or your cycle or your scooter or your bike. It's almost like you don't even know that you're driving it there are times when personally I would sit in my car go towords a certain place and then it like wow I didn't even realize that I was going in the right direction because I didn't even tell my car that I didn't even tell my car that I had to get into that direction. It will almost happened subconsciously and that's the power of habit. That's the power where you're not thinking. Oh, is my left foot on the clutch and my right foot is on the brake or the acceleration. It just happens because you're so used to it. So the brain has gotten you to a point where it's dispensing the least amount of energy. To get any work done brushing your teeth-habit may be sleeping-habit may be eating-habit may be watching netflix habit may be scrolling social media habit and what you know is , habits are in both directions. you can pick and make a good habit. You can pick and make a bad habit and it’s unfortunately the design of nature that bad habits are easier to form. And good habits take a lot of effort so whether it’s losing weight whether it’s sleeping on time, whether it is not consuming social media while you’re working whether it’s speaking to your loved ones or a daily basis, whether it is paying attention and listening to someone all of these are good habits, but they require a lot of effort.

So here are three way that you can form good habits irrespective of how difficult that habit is to begin with the first thing you have recognize is No habit will get formed if your body has to resist and fight the change

1.The best thing about body our mind are sole it is constantly in survival mode so if it finds you or the Circumstances around you doing anything that gets it out of the survival mode. It will do everything to come back to it. Here’s a great example. You are working out now when you’re working out why is it that your muscles get built when you’re lifting weights what is the science behind it? The science behind it is if you’re doing dumbbells for your biceps and you’re doing it every day, you’re lifting it with 5 kgs/10kgs whatever the muscles here are like, oh my god, this guy is lifting this weight every single day and it crushes one like I have no way of dealing with that weight so now I have to build myself to be able to withstand that weight and that’s why if you lift weights every day in exactly the same posture, the some mechanism every single day your muscles will get built because muscles will know how to survive that is how our bodies react but if you were sitting on your couch watching Netflix not moving at all. Your body’s like. Oh, that’s awesome. I don’t have to dispense any energy in surviving. I literally can switch off myself and go to sleep mode or lazy mode and the body will just be fine. So that’s what it does. It steps burning the energy It starts accumulating the fat because it’s is that sleep mode in that really zone I need not to do anything stressful and just relax and that’s what the body gets to it gets to survival mode.

Forming a Good Habits

So if you want to form a habit, the worst thing you can do is to give your body a shock treatment. That worst thing that you can do is tell your body I’m a new person tomorrow. I have been smoking cigarettes for all of my life and tomorrow. That’s it I’m going to cut down no more cigarettes and your body’s like survive , survive I need these cigarettes because I am used to it that’s the habit. That’s the form that I’m used to and now suddenly when you pull all of that away it’s not going to happened. It’s the same way where you’ve been waking up at 8:00 or 9:00 every day of your life and now suddenly you want to get up 6:00 you set up the alarm for 6:00 and you set up the alarm for 6:00 and maybe get up the first day, the second day, the third day but the body is like God I need to survive I don’t like this shock treatment. So I’m going to gravitate towards the natural self of 8 am or 9 am wake up time and do anything and everything that I can do subconsciously to tell you oh six is too early. Don’t get up, get at 8:00. Okay get up at 7:00 get up at like 7:30 so the first trick to forming a good habit is do not give your body a shock treatment make small baby steps take small baby steps if you want to work out and you want to eventually lift. I don’t know what 30 kgs / 40 kgs start with 5 and do it do it in a manner that your body gets used to it so that it knows that that you’re going to be doing this 5 kg every single day and it has to adjust to it. It has to survive and it will try and resist survive and it will try and resist that 5 kgs as much as it can but yeah 5kg is something that it can tolerate. So even if tries to resist you can fight that back but if it’s tries to resist the 30kgs it will tell you that it can’t and you’ll be like oh shit. I can’t And that’s it . Game over. You won’t be able to do it. Every single habit that you want to form has to start small has to start with baby steps And you do it because you want your body to get used to the new habit the eventual habit that you’re forming is a breakdown of mini habits and those mini habits are the ones that your bodies will favouritely react to

 2. The second thing about building habits is about consistency and not necessarily intensity It’s consistency and not necessarily intensity what I mean by that is the following you have two choices you go to the first day in the gym and you’re like, all right. I’m going to lose weight 10kgs this month and I’m going to do anything and everything that comes my way to burn my calories. I’m gonna run for an hour. I’m going to lift weight like nobody’s business I am going to do the squats, crunches. I am going to do every possible thing That one day itself And that’s the intensity with which you want to work But if you’re not able to bring consistency to that There is no use of that intensity Consistency is far more important that intensity when building a habit If you want to get up at a certain time every day. You have to get up at that time every day. There is no, ‘oh cheat day’. There is no ‘oh I can make 5 mins plus and minus’ No You’ve been sleeping at 8 and wanting to get up at 6:00 Be consistent and start at 7:50. Take that baby step And do that for two weeks, three weeks And when your body gets used to that Then take another baby step and go down to 7:40 then 7:30 then maybe 7:15 then 7:00 then 6:30 and then eventually 6:00 But when you do that consistently your body and your mind will make that into a habit. It will recognize that it can’t escape It has to accept its destiny like yeah This is what’s gonna happen I’m going to get up at 7:50 every day I’m going to get up at 7:30 every day I’m eventually going to get up at six every day I can see that coming this guy’s just. This guy is literally teasing me into this habit And I have no way. As a body I am just submitting, submitting And that is when the magic happens So consistency is the key not intensity You’re not going to make waking up early a habit If you one fine day decide. That instead of 8am, I’m gonna get up at 6:00am. That’s not how it works.

3. And third Don’t rely on motivation. Motivation is garbage Mel Robbins, one of the smartest, most powerful motivational speakers out there spoke about this actively when she said Motivation is garbage What do I mean by that We rely on motivation a lot when we have to do the good things and the right things in life Which is, ‘Oh, I want to study and study every day’ So I need the motivation to do that I want to work and work really well I need the motivation to do that I want to get up really early, I need the motivation for that I have to go to the gym. I need the motivation for that. I need to spend time with my family, I need the motivation for that. But how you don’t need motivation to sleep extra? How come you don’t need motivation to eat the extra slice of pizza? How come you don’t need motivation to drink the extra glass of beer or whiskey? Where is motivation When you have to do the right things in life? And why is it always there when you have to do shitty things in life? Motivation is a bad friend. It’s the worst friend possible. And that’s why, motivation is garbage. Don’t rely on motivation. Because if you rely on motivation Then your body remember? Is going to go back Fighting you saying, I want to survive And I will go back to what gives me pleasure what gives me comfort So if you want to for instance Get rid of your smoking habit your drinking habit you cannot rely on motivation to say I have cigarettes in my home and my office or at my easy disposal I have alcohol Wherever I can find access to it But I am going to rely on my motivation to not have it. That’s not how it works you have to get rid of the distraction. Get rid of it, don’t fight the distraction. Get rid of the distraction So if you wanna fight So if you wanna get into a habit of working out every day Then you have to fight every possible distraction that comes in your way The distraction could be ‘oh my gym is too far away!’ And I don’t wanna go and drive.. And then do this gym in front of people In  these tight clothes and I feel embarrassed and what not Forget that distraction Take it out of your life sign up for  an online class sigh up for weight at home Eliminate all possible reason Why you would not want to do it or your mind is telling you, you should not do it Eliminate all possible reasons for motivation to be your friend at that point of time and that is when you make the first step towards completely committing yourself To the habit that you want to go through At the end of it If you commit yourself to habits . what they beautifully do is compound you could decide I want to write a book at the end of this year or you could put yourself into a habit of writing every day And if you commit yourself to writing every day as a habit What will eventually happen is that you will not write just one But several books in a year But if you plan and give yourself the target and goal of writing it you may or may not get there Because you never formed yourself into the habit of writing of what is it that you wanted to achieve Habits is the best said way for you to surprise yourself with what can happen. And if there is anything that I have learnt in my life it is Don’t set goals or targets, set habits And this three step process is your first step Towards building the right habits.